When I was a little girl, I had a dream of a better life. I was constantly surrounded by bullets, bullying and danger. I felt threatened but didn't realize this was not normal. I grew up living my adult life much in the same way. My adrenals were in constant overdrive pumping adrenalin and cortisol. Stress from work and cycles of abuse were the culprits.
I was addicted to the cycles of hormonal rushes of trauma bonding. What is trauma bonding? It is the sick notion of feeling a false sense of love and being rejected by a narcissist. The narc manipulates the victim by showing signs of affection to only get what they want and then abandoning the victim to suffering.
The victim wants to be loved and will do anything the narc wants in order to get it. When the first signs of affection show up, the feeling of serotonin is released. When the narc abandons, emotions of not being good enough, blame and shame cause emotional pain. This is the trauma bonding. The victim just wants to be loved.
The solution turns out to be self-love. Loving ourselves completely and wholly is the antidote. The problem is we have been taught that loving ourselves, especially as women is wrong. We should put others first before our own needs is the belief or program.
The good news is that we can change and shift these programs. This is what my book is about. How to help yourself to live the life of your dreams no matter what you are going through. Your dream life is possible if you believe in yourself. LOVE YOURSELF WHOLLY AND COMPLETELY WITH ALL YOUR “FAULTS.”